Real Women Have Memes
January 25, 2013 6 Comments
No shit, Sherlock. But not all of us can help it.
So I just came across the image at left floating around Facebook, with about a gazillion “likes.” Are we not done with this skinny-bashing yet? This has been going on for a while now – I know it has because I’m 28 and never was there a point in my life where I wasn’t getting constantly bothered by everyone about how skinny I was. Sure, these days I’m pretty much known for not giving a fuck what anyone thinks, but as a teenager I hated my skininess. And there’s nothing like hating something about yourself, being unable to change it no matter how hard you try, and then getting shit from other people for it too.
The “Real Women Have Curves!” mentality isn’t accomplishing anything anymore. Curvy girls shouldn’t need any more high-fives. They’re fine. Know why? Because everyone and their fucking mother is curvy. Everyone is at least a little technically overweight. Its the new average. How insecure can you be about your physique when your physique looks like 90% of the population?
I understand that its all a backlash that started because of models puking themselves away, but we get it now. We’re over it. Everyone knows that thats not good. We can stop trying to undo it now.
Whats happening is we’re seeing the unhealthy, starved models in photos taken on a runway in Paris, then turning to our naturally thin co-worker or classmate in the real world and taking it out on them.
“Oh my God- you can’t even finish a slice of pizza?”
“That was my fourth slice.”
“At least eat your crust. God.”
Stop skinny-hating. Not all of us are starving ourselves. Go google “genetics” and read what that stuff’s about.
And if you’re curvy and need to feel better about yourself, visit the Bronx and befriend the hispanic chicks who are 5’1” and 150lbs and walk around in middrifts and jeans so tight they can’t fit their Metrocard in their pocket. The creepy guys on the corner still whistle at them.
About julietjoyce
Juliet Joyce Comedian, actor, writer and artist. Performed stand-up comedy in NYC and studied Improv with the UCB Theatre. Proud creator of a YouTube video with over 4 Million views. Veteran performer and creative consultant at nightmarenewyork.com. Assisted Harriet Tubman in escorting slaves to freedom through use of the underground railroad.
I think skinny bashing is super wrong. I thinks its abunch of hypocritical bullshit when women who are insecure lash out at people who are different no matter what they’re shape or size. I’ve been completely enamored by all sorts of bodies and good for you for being hot skinny and proud
Aw thank you. It took me a long time- and its not so much “proud” as it is that I just can’t be bothered caring anymore lol. But still.
not giving a fuck is sexy too!
Amen
people are almost never happy – there is always something wrong. Too skinny, too fat, too pimply, too manly, too femmy, too…whatever somebody comes up with.
Not giving a damn is the best way to be. You have your own life, your own choices to make, your own battles to fight, and your own happiness to find.
I completely agree with you on all of this! I’m naturally thin and event when I was at school (I am also 28), when I don’t think the body image obsession was as big as it is now, people would say ‘you’re so skinny’ but with a sneer on their face, like it was an insult. I also don’t care about being thin – there’s nothing I can do about it, but I hate the judgement and the assumption that I must be ill or starving myself to look like that. Even though my mum was the same when she was my age, she still comments on whether I’m ‘too thin’ and makes a big fuss if I have a second helping of food when I’m at her house. Sorry, this ended up being a really long comment, but you’ve articulated what I’ve been thinking for ages!
p.s. thanks for visiting my blog – it means I’ve found yours!